Wednesday, May 04, 2005
TEAR
I learned an interesting lesson I would like to share.
I was reading about the 5 stages of grief in order to understand and maybe find some help (or confort) for the process I'm going through. Of course it won't heal the pain, but.. well, I must confess that I just don't know what to do with my self...
I found an interesting "anagrama" (guess this is the name) for the work on grief - I believe that is what really matters: to deal and overcome it (it doesn't how long or how hard ). The process is called TEAR and is stated as bellow:
T = To accept the reality of the lossE = Experience the pain of the lossA = Adjust to the new environment without the lost objectR = Reinvest in the new reality
As the specialist says, it begins when the "honeymoon" is over... with this they mean the time when friends, family stop calling and trying to help you, when they all start to believe you must have overcame it all...(and the reality is YOU HAVEN'T - mostly due all this support)....
I don't know if knowing it will help, but.. well, I must be alright... one day I will...
PS. winter is coming and the days are really beautiful...
Kayleigh - The Lyrics
Do you remember chalk hearts melting on a playground wallDo you remember dawn escapes from moon washed college hallsDo you remember the cherry blossom in the market squareDo you remember I thought it was confetti in our hairBy the way didn't I break your heart?Please excuse me, I never meant to break your heartSo sorry, I never meant to break your heartBut you broke mine
Kayleigh is it too late to say I'm sorry?And Kayleigh could we get it together again?I just can't go on pretending that it came to a natural end
Kayleigh, oh I never thought I'd miss youAnd Kayleigh I thought that we'd always be friendsWe said our love would last foreverSo how did it come to this bitter end?
Do you remember barefoot on the lawn with shooting starsDo you remember loving on the floor in Belsize ParkDo you remember dancing in stilettoes in the snowDo you remember you never understood I had to goBy the way, Didn't I break your heartPlease excuse me, Never meant to break your heartSo sorry, Never meant to break your heartBut you broke mine
Kayleigh I just wanna say I'm sorryBut Kayleigh I'm too scared to pick up the phoneTo hear you've found another lover to patch up our broken home
Kayleigh I'm still trying to write that love songKayleigh it's more important to me now you're goneMaybe it will prove that we were rightOr ever prove that I was wrong
I was reading about the 5 stages of grief in order to understand and maybe find some help (or confort) for the process I'm going through. Of course it won't heal the pain, but.. well, I must confess that I just don't know what to do with my self...
I found an interesting "anagrama" (guess this is the name) for the work on grief - I believe that is what really matters: to deal and overcome it (it doesn't how long or how hard ). The process is called TEAR and is stated as bellow:
T = To accept the reality of the lossE = Experience the pain of the lossA = Adjust to the new environment without the lost objectR = Reinvest in the new reality
As the specialist says, it begins when the "honeymoon" is over... with this they mean the time when friends, family stop calling and trying to help you, when they all start to believe you must have overcame it all...(and the reality is YOU HAVEN'T - mostly due all this support)....
I don't know if knowing it will help, but.. well, I must be alright... one day I will...
PS. winter is coming and the days are really beautiful...
Kayleigh - The Lyrics
Do you remember chalk hearts melting on a playground wallDo you remember dawn escapes from moon washed college hallsDo you remember the cherry blossom in the market squareDo you remember I thought it was confetti in our hairBy the way didn't I break your heart?Please excuse me, I never meant to break your heartSo sorry, I never meant to break your heartBut you broke mine
Kayleigh is it too late to say I'm sorry?And Kayleigh could we get it together again?I just can't go on pretending that it came to a natural end
Kayleigh, oh I never thought I'd miss youAnd Kayleigh I thought that we'd always be friendsWe said our love would last foreverSo how did it come to this bitter end?
Do you remember barefoot on the lawn with shooting starsDo you remember loving on the floor in Belsize ParkDo you remember dancing in stilettoes in the snowDo you remember you never understood I had to goBy the way, Didn't I break your heartPlease excuse me, Never meant to break your heartSo sorry, Never meant to break your heartBut you broke mine
Kayleigh I just wanna say I'm sorryBut Kayleigh I'm too scared to pick up the phoneTo hear you've found another lover to patch up our broken home
Kayleigh I'm still trying to write that love songKayleigh it's more important to me now you're goneMaybe it will prove that we were rightOr ever prove that I was wrong
